Living Your Truth Ep. 8 Valuable Insight

Living Your Truth: Can You Handle It?

In Episode 8 of Valuable Insight, Daniel Beavers and I explore the truth. What is it? Where can you find it? What is your truth?

The truth can set us free. We live our lives with truths and lies.

We live life based on beliefs. Those beliefs can be rooted in truth or falsities.

Daniel and Leslie have made choices and lived their lives based on lies. These lies caused them great pain. It took some time to find their own truths, but they did it. And so can you.

Are you living in your truth?

Do you know others who don't live in their own truth?

What is the price we pay to avoid living in the truth?

Can lives be based on lies?

Daniel had to come to terms with his own identity as a gay man. And, live his truth as a gay Muslim man.

Leslie had to overcome the lies of her own childhood where being herself is not safe, desirable, or encouraged.

We discuss how children learn to disguise their true selves to avoid abuse, pain, neglect and other negative reactions from their parents and loved ones.

Re-arranging our mind comes from taking an objective look at what we believe. If our beliefs are based upon falsehoods, we can lead false lives. We can repress our true selves. Then, we lose touch with ourselves. Eventually, we will believe anything we hear. Why? Because we have lost touch with our ability to discern the truth.

Daniel and Leslie encourage you to live and tell your truth. Own it. Free yourself from false beliefs and premises to create a life that's truly you.

When we are honest with ourselves, we are honest with others.

Share your thoughts and stories in the comments. We'd love to hear from you.

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Sitting On The Saddle, I Wept: The Healing Power of Horses

The Horse's Special Connection With Man

My first earthly experience of horses was when my parents gave me a purple My Little Pony. That was 1989. I was four years old.

The beauty and majesty of horses has been recorded throughout history and literature since the dawn of time. Horses, like dogs, are one of man's oldest friends, workmates, and companions.

Horses always intrigued me. I always admired the girls and boys who could ride horses, breed them, and share a connection with them.

I never believed that riding horses was something I could experience. It felt largely out of my budget - it's not a secret that horse riding and ownership is a rich person's hobby. And, I felt like horses were too intimidating for me as an animal. I never actively pursued the hobby and sport of horse riding.

Knowing When You're Ready To Ride

That all changed when my daughter turned two. She started talking about horses seemingly out of nowhere. She always gravitated to horses whenever we encountered them. At fairs and birthday parties, she felt an immediate connection with horses. She asked for horse riding lessons, but I felt she was too immature to handle the responsibility and the risk of working with a 1,000lb animal.

Her passion and interest never faded. When Daniel Beavers, my co-host on Valuable Insight, came into my life the horse issue took a prominent place in our lives. Daniel and my then 7 year old daughter would talk for long stretches of time about horses and horse riding. She shared with Daniel many interesting facts about horses that not even I knew. By the end of our week together, Daniel took a look and me and said, "She's ready to ride."

With Daniel's advice, guidance, and encouragement I started hunting for the right riding school for Harper and I. I figured I could learn a long with Harper as a mother-daughter bonding activity and that it would give me some "me-time" away from the demands of people and all of the mental strain from intellectual activities I engage in with school, business, and managing a household.

Crash Course Into The Horse World

My daughter learning how to groom and tack a horse.

I did not have any inkling that horse riding would help me in other ways.

When I got my first lesson with Beth Boyer at The Riding School in Vista, California, I wasn't exactly sure what I'd expect. I came in with a totally open mind, but I asked her to help my daughter gain self-confidence around horses and gain maturity and responsibility in caring for another living being. As for me, I wasn't sure how she could help me, but I trusted her experience and expertise enough to let her size me up.

And that, Beth did.

Beth threw me into a crash course: she taught me how to groom a horse, tack it up (putting on its protective gear, bridle, and saddle), how to get it in and out of its paddock and how to mount a horse.

I wasn't prepared for what happened next.

Becoming Body Conscious

I just wept.

While sitting on the saddle, with my feet in the stirrups she pushed my heels down.

She made a simple observation, "Your ankles and feet are stiff."

That observation opened up a well-spring of emotion inside of me.

I turned my head and looked at my six year old son and husband watching me.

Tears welled up. They started to stream. Then, while sitting in the saddle, I just wept.

Tears welled up. They started to stream. Then, while sitting in the saddle, I just wept.

I didn't know what made me cry.

I looked down at Beth and she knew exactly what to say in that very moment.

She looked at me with sympathetic eyes and said with full understanding, "You just want someone else to be in charge for a while, huh?"

My throat tightened. Tears streamed down my face. I couldn't let out a word. I just nodded.

It was at that moment that I could feel the tranquility of Burt, the horse, between my legs. It was if he was equalizing my energy with his.

I felt, in that very moment, totally understood.

I didn't have to explain myself or justify my feelings or give a reason why.

Beth knew exactly what I needed without me having to say a word.

Letting Go of 2020

In the process of learning horse care and horse training and riding technique, I had a moment of cathartic release.

The stress of 2020 added up:

I watched my friends fight amongst themselves and each other about politics. The uncertainty of the 2020 Presidential election left me frazzled. A good friend almost died of Covid. My friend's parents both died of Covid. My husband was laid off (fortunately with a severance package), and other Covid related stresses and strains effecting my business, friendships and family's lives.

I felt, for the entire year of 2020, as if I was holding my breath. I was waiting from the comfort and refuge of my home to see what everyone else was going to do. I was hoping that people would just work together for the sake of humanity.

That night I had a dream: The world was being invaded and destroyed by aliens we don't totally understand and everyone is just trying to save themselves.

It is the perfect metaphor to describe how I felt the world is behaving.

Healing Power of Horses

That was my first horse riding lesson. I was hooked from that moment and just four lessons in felt that confident rider emerge from within me.

Beth said that riding teaches people a lot about self-confidence. I believe her.

Essentially, it doesn't matter what is going on in the world outside of you if you believe in yourself.

The truth is, people and institutions will disappoint you. They will fail you. They will forsake you.

That's not a reason to hold your breath and give up on your dreams.

Horse riding allows me to be body conscious. Body consciousness allows one to notice where emotions and tension is trapped in the body. When you notice it, you can let it go.

Just let it go.

Once we let go, it does.

Like those tears.

The fear.

The burden.

The worry.

The hardest part is really letting it go.

Maybe because we are afraid of the damage our emotions and feelings will cause.

But, the real damage is holding them in.

Letting them go transforms them into hope, humility, grace, and peace.

The healing power of horses taught me that.

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Manifesting Thoughts EP. 7 Valuable Insight

Did you know that you are manifesting your thoughts?

Manifesting Thoughts of Bad And Good Quality

Are you creating the world your heart truly desires? Or, are you reacting to everything you think - even if you don't qualify, question, and inquire as to the source of those thoughts?

Most of the time, people don't know where their thoughts come from.

They can be fearful thoughts.

They can be worrisome thoughts.

They can be judgemental or even critical thoughts.

For better or for worse, we create an environment that expresses what we feel based on what we think.

I talk extensively on this subject in my book The Money Formula: Change Your Relationship With Money in 7 Steps and 15 Minutes or Less.

If your world is yourself pushed out, what are you putting inside of your mind?

In this episode, Daniel and I talk about how you can change your entire life and its quality by changing the quality of your thoughts.

Manifesting Thoughts Like A Champion

Daniel didn't become a world champion horse rider and trainer by thinking defeatist thoughts. He tells us his personal story that led him to be the best in the world.

And you can be the best in the world of anything your heart desires, too.

Get your head in the game with some new thoughts.

Your thoughts tell you what you believe is true about yourself.

We want to give you the truth of who you are and what you can do.

Are you ready to manifest thoughts of a best life?

#valuableinsight #manifestingthoughts #thinkhappy