How Your Spouse Is Essential To Your Career: Keep Your Spouse Motivated
Part six of the Partnership Series – keep your spouse motivated on the job front.
If your spouse is unemployed, down and out from a tough rejection, or working on a tough project, you can keep him/her motivated to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Encourage your spouse to take a break from their seemingly endless work. I remember when Franck lost his job in San Diego, he spent hours at the computer neglecting his religious daily surfing. I had to convince him to get up and take pleasure in his life even just for an hour.
Help them break down their goals into manageable objectives. You can act as your spouse’s coach, by just getting them to talk about their goals and objectives. You can even write them down as they talk. When you help your spouse talk about their goals, things become more manageable and realistic to tackle.
Act as a mirror and tell them all of the successful things they’ve done that have led to this point. Above all, keep things into perspective. Remind them that this period shall pass and that they will eventually see the light at the end of the tunnel thanks to all of their hard work and dedication.
Sometimes, all you need to do is just listen. Your spouse might have a lot of things s/he wasn’t able to say at work and wants to get how they really feel about their boss/colleagues/projects off their chest. Perhaps, your spouse doesn’t know how they’re going to find a job and has some worries they’d like to share. Don’t allow yourself to get worked up by their confessions – otherwise, they’ll be scared to share more with you for fear of getting you upset – just remain calm and listen. They’re just words that express how they feel and nothing more and most of the time, that is all they need to move on. This is also a great opportunity to work on your own listening skills.
There will be days when you’re feeling the pinch and become stressed out. This is natural. Take turns listening to each other and continue working on your communication skills. It really does help one’s own morale to focus on helping somebody else work through their problems. You’ll find that you are capable of helping your spouse and yourself move through difficult career phases.
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